“All that a man achieve and all that he fails to achieve is the result of his own thought – James Allen”
The ability to create coping statements (self talk) is a very useful mind skill for managing stress. You are free to choose your thoughts. But the choice you make today will determine your future.
We need to cope with
-Our negative emotions such as anger, fear, worry and guilt
-failure, loss,
-life events such as illness, death
The goals of coping statements are,
Calming you
Motivating you
Restoring your self-worth
Coping statements are effective if
It is specific
It is practical
It is realistic
It is personal
It is brief
Coping statements are not effective if
It is rigid
Create any side effects
Criticizing you/others/situations badly
Blaming you/others/situations
Judging you/others/ situations irrationally
When it is comparison or suspicious
Some of the powerful coping statements
Calming you
I am in control
They are just thoughts/ feelings
Relax
It will pass
Letting go
I don’t engage my negative mood/thoughts
Motivating you
I take responsibility for..
I have more time/people/resource
Nothing stops me
It is not failure it is a feedback
Restoring your self- worth
I trust myself
I am just good
It is ok to make a mistake
I can learn something out of it
Believe you ability
I can do it
I can handle this/manage
I am confident
I acknowledge and remember my strength
Hope for the best
It is possible
Let’s look what is positive in it
I do my best
Today is my day
Acceptance
I accept myself/others/situation
I forgive me/other
I don’t take it personally
I can tolerate
Are you ready to create your own coping statements?
Understand your problems
Create appropriate coping statements
Believe it this will work
Repeat this process if it is necessary
The ability to create coping statements (self talk) is a very useful mind skill for managing stress. You are free to choose your thoughts. But the choice you make today will determine your future.
We need to cope with
-Our negative emotions such as anger, fear, worry and guilt
-failure, loss,
-life events such as illness, death
The goals of coping statements are,
Calming you
Motivating you
Restoring your self-worth
Coping statements are effective if
It is specific
It is practical
It is realistic
It is personal
It is brief
Coping statements are not effective if
It is rigid
Create any side effects
Criticizing you/others/situations badly
Blaming you/others/situations
Judging you/others/ situations irrationally
When it is comparison or suspicious
Some of the powerful coping statements
Calming you
I am in control
They are just thoughts/ feelings
Relax
It will pass
Letting go
I don’t engage my negative mood/thoughts
Motivating you
I take responsibility for..
I have more time/people/resource
Nothing stops me
It is not failure it is a feedback
Restoring your self- worth
I trust myself
I am just good
It is ok to make a mistake
I can learn something out of it
Believe you ability
I can do it
I can handle this/manage
I am confident
I acknowledge and remember my strength
Hope for the best
It is possible
Let’s look what is positive in it
I do my best
Today is my day
Acceptance
I accept myself/others/situation
I forgive me/other
I don’t take it personally
I can tolerate
Are you ready to create your own coping statements?
Understand your problems
Create appropriate coping statements
Believe it this will work
Repeat this process if it is necessary
