Saturday, September 27, 2008

Stress, Use it otherwise you will loose it!

No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again. – Buddha

What we are doing with our life situation. Where you are now and where you want to go. Either you are using or loosing our life energy. You can check it now. See the four squares yellow, green, red, and blue. 

And characteristics which one you belong. 

The colour yellow, green, and red represent the traffic signal

You can stay temporarily if you are in yellow,
You can go if you are in green because you have learn to use your stress
You must stop if you are in red. You have to check your goal, value, believes, attitude… it is necessary to correct yourself before you proceed.
If you are in blue you may need assistance, help, advice from others 

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Nature of thinking, feeling and acting

“You can not always control circumstances. But you can control your thoughts”.- Charles Poplestone

Thinking, feeling and acting are reciprocal in nature. Each one influences and influenced by other two.

1. Our usual thinking will be;
• Inference about the event
• Imagination
• Fantasy thinking
• Solution about the problem etc…
• Slow in nature

This in turn will produce situation specific emotions
Consider this example
You are ideally sitting in your room. No one is around you.
 What will be of your thinking and feeling?
Feel boring, imagine something 

2. When we encounter stressful situation, if the situation is uncertain, 
Speed up our thought
Negative in nature
Thought will produce mixture of emotions.

Consider this example
You are waiting in the interview room. Your heart bounce, you feel uncomfortable, etc
You think about the result or consequences
You feel anxious, worry 

If you waiting for a long time and heard some one was already selected by the interviewer 
Probably you feel anger 

In our day today routine if you practice relaxation, meditation, exercise and dietary habits, it will help you to think and feel better. But if you have unfinished business in your mind or under extreme stress, it will not allow you to relax, meditate or follow daily routine. It is necessary handling of our thinking and feeling before it disturb you, otherwise it will disturb you! 

Monday, September 22, 2008

Threat or challenge

“People are not disturbed by things but by the views which they take of them” (Epictetus).

Thinking and feeling process occurs always in our mind in the background. Most of the time it is habitual and automatic, and we are not aware of it. Our actions (behaviour) are only output. Particular set of believes, purpose and meaning create particular perspective to our thinking, feeling, and action, which in turn it will give its own outcome or result.

If you change your purpose, meaning or perspective, your thinking, feeling and action will change. You will get different outcome.

You can get what you want by change your perspective, purpose or meaning of the stressful situation.
You need little training and discipline. But you can do it!