Threat or challenge

“People are not disturbed by things but by the views which they take of them” (Epictetus).

Thinking and feeling process occurs always in our mind in the background. Most of the time it is habitual and automatic, and we are not aware of it. Our actions (behaviour) are only output. Particular set of believes, purpose and meaning create particular perspective to our thinking, feeling, and action, which in turn it will give its own outcome or result.

If you change your purpose, meaning or perspective, your thinking, feeling and action will change. You will get different outcome.

You can get what you want by change your perspective, purpose or meaning of the stressful situation.
You need little training and discipline. But you can do it!