Saturday, September 20, 2008

Thinking, feeling, and acting

When I interact with people during my awareness programme, workshops, I have found many people are not ready to invest time to think about the way they think. Most of them are not aware of their own feelings and actions. Without knowing where we are going, what we are doing, we will not get what we want.
We think erroneously - lack of thinking skills
We feel out of control - poor emotional regulation
We act impulsively - poor self-regulated behaviour

Consider this analogy, our behaviour is like a triggering a gun, our thinking is a bullet, our feeling is loading a gun with bullet. We ourselves or others may trigger the gun either intentionally or unintentionally, can we control after that? There will be no harm if we remove the bullet from the gun before it trigger. 
Most of the counseling techniques especially cognitive behaviour therapy focuses on how one think, feel and act. Through proper training we can learn to think constructively, learn to control our unwanted, distressing emotion and we can control impulsive, maladaptive behaviours.

Friday, September 19, 2008

concept of stress coping

"The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." - William James

  Life today is becoming increasingly complex; stress is an inevitable part of life. It is thought that young people today are under more and different types of stress, compared with people from previous generations such as; increased pressure, competition, decreased resources for family support, increased access to means of self-harm, violence in the media and increased use of alcohol, drugs. When coping resources are inadequate stressful events may give rise to unhealthy outcomes. Stress or lack of coping resources may be one factor of many that contribute to suicide.
To succesfuly coping with life challenges the following are more important;
● Become more knowledgeable about stress
● Understand the process and effects of stress
● Identify your major sources of stress – situations, people, etc.
● Anticipate stressful periods and plan for them
● Develop successful stress management techniques and practice them
Think about...
● What you think?
● How you feel?
● What you do?
In stressful situation
Model I
Usually we act first then we feel and think about it 
In this model, we react to situation
Mostly out of our control
Model II
When we think about it first then we feel the importance and finally we act 
In this model we respond to the situation
In control

If you trained in such a way you can find a benefit out of your adverse life event

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